I feel like there’s a really stupid stereotype associated with Valentine’s Day: guy gets girl roses and chocolates, they go out for a fancy candlelit dinner, blah blah blah. This is touching and romantic to some, while it makes others want to vomit. Either way, the lens through which this holiday is viewed is really narrow.

In my mind, Valentine’s Day should be a time to spread love to everyone. You may love your significant other, but what about parents? Siblings? Pets? Friends? Why shouldn’t they get some commercially-designated attention?

I heard through a friend (shout out to Shannon Sinwell) about a concept called “Galentine’s Day,” in which women go out together as a group, spending time with each other and showcasing their mutual affection. Personally, I’m not in a relationship right now—why should there be any shame in me spending time with my friends on Valentine’s Day instead of with a guy?

I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with taking your boyfriend or girlfriend out on Valentine’s Day; the holiday is a great time to spend some quality time with that special someone. I’m just saying that you shouldn’t feel bad if you don’t have a significant other.

My friends and I love doing group activities, whether that be bowling, laser tagging, or some other interactive activity that allows us to get out and have some fun together. If you don’t have a date planned on the 14th, do what I’m doing. Spend some quality time with your closest friends. They’re just as valuable as a boyfriend or girlfriend, after all. “Galentine’s Day” (or…Palentine’s Day? It isn’t restricted to girls!) is the perfect time to celebrate your mutual friendly love.

As cute and lovey-dovey as dates are, I’m going out with my friends this Valentine’s Day. I’m going to tell my parents and my sisters and my friends that I love them.

After all, spreading the love is what Valentine’s Day is about, right?